One of my ex co-workers used to always suggest me to get flowers for my wife, when going home after work. I used to wonder if this is an act of love or an act of habit in the name of love. It occurred to me that feeling happy about giving/receiving flowers is a programmed emotion which gives an instant high, just like a caffeine shot. It immediately tapers off, with any act/conversation that is perceived to be contrary to his/her feelings. Forget about flowers, even gifting a diamond ring would have the same effect. Emotions which would last long are similar to a healthy body and mind, which would require prolonged nurturing, until it becomes second nature. A personality impression forms over a period of time, by the way he conducts with others/her/himself and his reactions to unpleasant situations which would largely depend on his sensibilities, belief systems and emotional intelligence. If this is healthy and positive, he is already a very loving person. The point is not about flowers but being aware of what would foster a joyful and loving relation.
5 Comments
Shyam
Admirably said. Feel good one loved it.👌🏻👍🏻
admin
🙂 Thank you Shyam
Jaime Vallecilla
Great relationship insight!
Nagesh Yarlagadda
Insightful perspective. However, I wouldn’t write-off any of these gestures as ineffective… an occasional flower here, a surprise gift there or an unplanned outing somewhere would only add to the nurturing of healthy and respectful relationships.
sundeep
🙂 agree – icing on the cake but not the cake