What are odds of two people compatible in their sexual, emotional, financial and social – sensibilities/intelligence/perspectives. Could not think of a more apt sarcasm (as phrased in Hunger Games) – May the odds be ever in your favor. Issue however is not in the differences but lack of intelligence and awareness in accepting the differences. It is interesting to observe that this acceptance is more natural and willing in mother, father, son, daughter, brother and sister relations, which is why institution of family is relatively stable compared to marriage in every society, culture and religion. Our social marketing on marriages (read as in – Marriages are made in heaven; Your spouse completes you etcetera) creating a euphoria that is one of the best things that could happen blinds the rational understanding of co-existence.
My intent is to neither rubbish the marriage system nor to preach as how marriages can be successful. Point here is greater understanding, constant realization and acceptance of human traits might help in making better decisions in relations.
Feel below quotes nicely bring out the nuances of marriage.
It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages – Friedrich Nietzsche
The demand to be loved is the greatest of all arrogant presumptions – Friedrich Nietzsche
It is possible to love a human being if you don’t know them too well – Charles Bukowski
What most people are calling marriage right now is just a whole bundle of expectations about how the other person should make heaven for you. If you’re trying to extract happiness out of somebody, you will be disappointed – Sadhguru
Irritation, anger hate and rage are just progressions. If you feel the mildest sense of irritation, that is when you need work on – Sadhguru
The reality of the person can never match your idea of him – Madhuri Banerjee
Somewhere all the passionate rivers of relationships ultimately end up in the sea of domesticity and habit or dry up in the heat of doubt — Madhuri Banerjee
It is both beautiful and scary when you realize how close you are to happiness and how far you are willing to go to stay away from it – Rohit G Banawlikar
Understanding of an emotion needs lots of space and just being emotional is about not giving space – Ram Gopal Varma
Uninhibited freedom and sexual attraction are essential for successful marriage. Conflict of interests brings down sexual element in marriage – Ram Gopal Varma